If you have never felt loved or accepted, I am writing this for you. If you don’t know how to love yourself, I am writing this for you. If you don’t know how you fit into this judgmental, chaotic world, I am writing this for you.
You are exactly as you are meant to be. You are not a mistake. You are not broken.
Maybe no one has ever told you that you are enough. But you are, my love—you are more than enough. You are so worthy of your every dream, wish, and desire. You are not wrong for being who you are. The world is wrong for trying to cage you into a definable category, an acceptable algorithm in whatever these bullshit societal norms demand. And trust me, they are complete bullshit. The world is wrong, not you.
You deserve your own love and trust more than anyone else. Like most of us, you probably spread it out to everyone around you and leave nothing back for yourself. You hurt when your efforts aren’t reciprocated. You were taught that you had to earn love, that you had to give yourself away in order to be worthy of anything. That’s not true. You are allowed to be selfish with your love – in fact, it’s necessary for your survival in this predatory world. Love yourself first. Trust yourself first. Set boundaries around yourself, even though it feels scary. In the end, those who aren’t meant for you may leave. It will be painful, but you have to create space to let the right ones in.
They will come. It’s hard to believe in the beginning, but once you start shining that beautiful light of yours inwards and illuminating all the darkest parts of yourself, you set yourself free. You show your true spirit to the world and your tribe will respond, drawn to your magnetism. Drawn to the unique being that you are, the bravery and truth that you represent. Your people show up when you stand in your authenticity. Until you find the courage to do so, you’ll always feel like you don’t fit in because you are attracting the wrong people. People who feed off of your giving nature. People who take you for granted and steal your precious energy. It is up to you to stop the eternal drain, to say no more, to decide that you can have better.
You deserve love. You are love. How could you not deserve it when you embody it? We are all beings of light and integrity who have simply lost our way on this journey of humanity. Our task is to come back to ourselves. Our mission is to unlearn all the conditioning and heal the trauma of our lifetimes.
Do not listen to the world. You have listened to it all along – has it done you any good? The sooner you tune in to what you want and need, the easier it is to let go of what others think. You cannot live your life for other people while they go on living for themselves. You will never win that battle. In the end, you’ll be left with nothing and they’ll tell you that you did it to yourself. They aren’t wrong – we are responsible for our choices. Stop abandoning yourself. Do whatever it is you need to do to get back to the root of your true spirit, your inherent nature.
You can be the light that you are searching for in this barren landscape. That is the only answer that will bring you what you’re craving. Everything you need is within you. Truly.
I once did not believe that. I once loathed myself and searched for others to fill the wounds, the empty unknowable spaces inside me. I felt like a gaping void of sadness all of the time, and I could not solve my problem. I could not solve it because I was endlessly, desperately looking for answers outside of myself. They never lived there, so I never found them. I had to learn to heal my own self-worth. That was the solution all along.
I’ll tell you again: You are worthy. You are enough. You are absolutely right to be exactly who you are. You deserve to live as that person without any judgment, harassment, rejection, or shame. If you exist here on this earth, you are meant to be here. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Don’t let anyone take your humanity away from you. I am here to tell you that you are loved, you are precious, and you deserve everything you ever wanted. I am here for you. I see you. You belong.